God desires that we would be confident people of faith; bold and passionate.  This confidence is not in our own strength, but in the strength of Christ in us.  What happens when a passionate and confident person relationally intersects or connects with The Insecure?  Yikes...emotional gears grind that's what!

The Insecure enjoys living in self-pity; this is the comfort zone. Life is difficult and we all experience pain.  The enemy would like for us to stop there and live in self-pity.  In order to maintain that comfort zone, this personality type will tend to pout and whine.  God has a great future for every person, but unless The Insecure is forced to step out into change, he or she will never taste all that God has to give.  On top of this self-limiting scenario, The Insecure will tend to resent and condemn everyone around them who is confident. Misery follows.  This personality will look for rewards and never find them; blame others for their lack.  If we are honest, we will acknowledge that this mindset can force its way into any of our thoughts.  Will we allow it?

Possible Coping Strategy:  When someone is operating as The Insecure, please do not reward this mindset.  Help him or her to "stretch" beyond their insecurities; Love makes a Way.  Look for ways to encourage a more confident attitude or approach to a situation; make suggestions.  Reality is only found in Christ; it is in Christ that we place our confidence.  If each of us are containers of the Spirit of Christ, shouldn't we be living passionately and confidently in God's love and purpose for us?  In the power of God's love, paint a new picture for The Insecure and press on.

"And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns."  Philippians 1:6